Skittled
What did the crab do?
I know it's a huge romantic dream that Mr Perfect will ride up on his white horse and sweep the princess (ie you) off her feet, completley overwhelming you with unconditional love, purely for who you ARE, rather than who you appear to be... but that's not reality, unfortunately...
Girls can be (physically) attractive without a guy being attracted to them. What ur_inner_child said is pretty spot on:
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Even if she doesn't APPROACH the guys, she plays a part in it, too. You can be proactive about it without being blatant; nothing wrong with making eye contact, and even better yet, smiling and holding eye contact for a few moments, just once or twice to get their attention and potential curiosity. Go to the bar at the same time as them - it gets him away from his mates and his guard will be a little lower; if he were to be rejected, it'd not be (as much) a public spectacle, and there's an easy exit-route for him.
I agree with the idea that it's pretty unlikely that she'll randomly meet the man of her dreams (quote: thejosiekiller), but the chances are even worse if she expects the man of her dreams to approach her. Guys have moods too: maybe the man-of-her-dreams is just in a shit mood the moment he sees her and doesn't even consider approaching her? Off goes MOHD, to find some other princess.
Any girl who's not being approached isn't being judged --on face value-- as attractive enough to be approached. 'Attractiveness' covers a lot of things, not just physically...
Girls can be (physically) attractive without a guy being attracted to them. What ur_inner_child said is pretty spot on:
If she's physically attractive, she needs to work on actually 'attractING' guys, rather than just being attractive. If she doesn't seem interested or open , then noone's going to approach her. People are pretty fearful of rejection (95% of guys, anyway), so her apparent 'closed-off-ness' is sometimes intimidating, othertimes just tells you that you're so unlikely to be successful, it's a waste of time. The assumption of having a boyfriend doesn't always happen, but it's more likely to happen if she seems uninterested in guys and is good looking --it's like a guy not wanting sex from his girlfriend, and the girlfriend then assuming he's getting some elsewhere. People have needs, and if she seems not interested, there's probably a reason for that so I'd not bother. (Hypothetically, anyway; I'm taken and devoted to my girl, so I'm not interested.ur_inner_child said:
)Even if she doesn't APPROACH the guys, she plays a part in it, too. You can be proactive about it without being blatant; nothing wrong with making eye contact, and even better yet, smiling and holding eye contact for a few moments, just once or twice to get their attention and potential curiosity. Go to the bar at the same time as them - it gets him away from his mates and his guard will be a little lower; if he were to be rejected, it'd not be (as much) a public spectacle, and there's an easy exit-route for him.
I agree with the idea that it's pretty unlikely that she'll randomly meet the man of her dreams (quote: thejosiekiller), but the chances are even worse if she expects the man of her dreams to approach her. Guys have moods too: maybe the man-of-her-dreams is just in a shit mood the moment he sees her and doesn't even consider approaching her? Off goes MOHD, to find some other princess.
Any girl who's not being approached isn't being judged --on face value-- as attractive enough to be approached. 'Attractiveness' covers a lot of things, not just physically...
