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jhakka
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I don't like the idea of lying to my parents, and similar to Susan, I think that silence is pretty much the same thing.
The problem with telling them (at any time) will be the creation of lots of unecessary hoo-har before, during and after the trip. There will be the possibility of going without your parents approval/stress about what will happen when you get home/what will happen when you tell them (assuming you will tell them after)/and so on.
Similarly, not telling them would have the issue stuck in your head the entire time. Worrying, guilt, etc.
It's not a cool situation. One thing I do suggest is do not back down. You're paying for it yourself, you're going down with your friends, and it was as much your friends as much as you who invited Jason along (ie: "Bring Jason along too, if you like" or equivalent). At worst, tell them that your friends invited him (which is also true).
The haggling thing is done now. You're allowed to go, you've paid for it (down payment at least). You're committed. As far as they can know, there's no way you can back out. Anything else is an issue completely irrelevant to going down in the first place. You've respected them by asking their permission to go down, and now that you are going, what goes on is your business.
I suggest letting them know, but definitely do not back out of going.
The problem with telling them (at any time) will be the creation of lots of unecessary hoo-har before, during and after the trip. There will be the possibility of going without your parents approval/stress about what will happen when you get home/what will happen when you tell them (assuming you will tell them after)/and so on.
Similarly, not telling them would have the issue stuck in your head the entire time. Worrying, guilt, etc.
It's not a cool situation. One thing I do suggest is do not back down. You're paying for it yourself, you're going down with your friends, and it was as much your friends as much as you who invited Jason along (ie: "Bring Jason along too, if you like" or equivalent). At worst, tell them that your friends invited him (which is also true).
The haggling thing is done now. You're allowed to go, you've paid for it (down payment at least). You're committed. As far as they can know, there's no way you can back out. Anything else is an issue completely irrelevant to going down in the first place. You've respected them by asking their permission to go down, and now that you are going, what goes on is your business.
I suggest letting them know, but definitely do not back out of going.