Honestly, find other girls. There must be something in the personalityof these types of girls that you are attracted to, they all seem to be too casual, not serious enough about the relationship.IcEy said:All the girls I've gone out with were just so nice, and every time, I thought, maybe she'll be different. I mean, I don't ask for much - someone to talk to, someone to confide in, occasional sex and a compliment here and there. But for all of them, this has proven to be too difficult. Yet I seem to manage to be there for them, to not upset them, to not hurt them as they have hurt me. I mean, I'm not perfect, and yet, I seem to be able to cause so much less harm than they. Wtf?
Its not one off, isolated incidents either. Its time after time, every time. Is it me? Do I just scream "you know I'll always come back to you, so you wanna see how far you'll push me?"
I don't want to believe that I have to treat girls like shit, to play hard to get, in order to get them. I don't want to believe that they're all like that. But I know that so many of them are. So many.
My ex TOLD me to stop loving her, because then, she'll love me more. She told me to stop caring.
I can't stop caring. That's not who I am. I'm not going to act like someone I'm not to keep you. Either be someone else, and keep them, or be myself, and have them like me for someone I'm not. Hrm.
Its not like I don't give them enough space either. In my opinion, I give them too much space - space to lie all over other guys at parties, space to completely ignore me unless I'm so drunk I need to be hospitalised, space to cheat on me and hurt me. And then its MY fault because I didn't drag her off, its MY fault because I didn't make it perfectly clear what's acceptable or not. Omg...
Skeeta said:the nice guy is the guy that is nice funny sweet etc always there for you but doesnt have that certain something to make the chemistry bubble.. hes most likely the guy that you cry to when ur boyfriend is a bitch or when u break up
hes the guy you wish you had feelings for because you know how good he'd treat you but for some damn erason you just dont feel anythin...
to most girls, because they think like the above - isn't it a double standard that you don't want a nice guy now, so you leave them waiting while you have your fun and in the end you will come back to them?SuGa BunI =D said:nice guys seem to lack in the vivid dynamic personality department. i personally want to settle down with a nice guy once i want a long term relationship, knowing for the fact that he wouldn’t cheat on me, treat me well, never ever forget our anniversary, and want to share routines with ect
it's about which type of person satisfies one's needs best at different stages of one's life.iambored said:to most girls, because they think like the above - isn't it a double standard that you don't want a nice guy now, so you leave them waiting while you have your fun and in the end you will come back to them?
She doesn't have the right to "reserve" you, so you're by no means obliged to co-operate.iambored said:but (i know things change, i know you meet and like different people blah blah but in an ideal world) if i was known as a 'nice guy' i would not go out with a girl with such double standards - if she decided to choose me as the one she wanted to settle down with after she had had her fun, if she had left me and others like me waiting, i wouldn't take her. would anyone else do the same as me?
have you read this articlehttp://con.ca/issues/7/9/1194 posted a two pages ago yet? if not, read it. take notes.iambored said:but (i know things change, i know you meet and like different people blah blah but in an ideal world) if i was known as a 'nice guy' i would not go out with a girl with such double standards - if she decided to choose me as the one she wanted to settle down with after she had had her fun, if she had left me and others like me waiting, i wouldn't take her. would anyone else do the same as me?
i guess there is no why. it's irrational.iambored said:I'm reading it now. Why the hell would you not go and find another girl who will actually treat you right?
That's the biggest load of bullshit I've ever heard.SuGa BunI =D said:nice guys seem to lack in the vivid dynamic personality department.
do you ever get to know a nice guy?SuGa BunI =D said:nice guys seem to lack in the vivid dynamic personality department. i personally want to settle down with a nice guy once i want a long term relationship, knowing for the fact that he wouldn’t cheat on me, treat me well, never ever forget our anniversary, and want to share routines with ect
so nice guys only pretend to be nice but think evil thoughts?braad said:do you ever get to know a nice guy?
i mean, yes you know them, but unlike numerous other people alot of nice guys dont just blurt what they think about things out.
possibly, but if you dont get to know them you will never find outrosepetal25 said:so nice guys only pretend to be nice but think evil thoughts?
exactly :uhhuh: why i wish too go for a girl that hasnt had a bf either, because id ont want some girl who goes out has the time of her life then whenever she wants go 'settle' with a nice guy? thats not fairiambored said:to most girls, because they think like the above - isn't it a double standard that you don't want a nice guy now, so you leave them waiting while you have your fun and in the end you will come back to them?